divorced and lonely, will i find someone?

Hi, there.

I'm not a psychic so I can't tell you with certainty that you'll find a new wife. I will say, though, that we are social creatures and if you want to find people to share your life with, you will find them. It might take time and a little creativity, but you will not spend your life alone.

What sort of things do you like to do? Do you have a favorite hang out or hobbie?

Hoping 2012 brings you reasons to smile. . .

well,im what i like to say a creative oddity, i am an artist, would like to find someone who has the same niche, I love dogs, photography, painting, cooking.
The problem that i fear is that the this virus seems to be misunderstood and scares 90% of the woman away right from the get gom if im up front and honest, do I then go the route where I dont say anything, get them to love me for me, and hope that its enough to handle the truth, if in fact the woman of my dreams is not my recently walked out wife.

If it were me, I wouldn't divulge your status until you felt like it was time to add physical intimacy to a relationship. You could also let the topic come up in conversation to see how a woman reacts to the idea in general, or how much she knows about it.

At any rate, there HAS to be someone out there who doesn't consider the virus a deal breaker. Fearing how someone might react, shouldn't keep you from going out and meeting people, though.

Are there any organizations in your community that support people living with the virus?

the organizations that are in my area have a meeting that I went to, it was co-ed, but all gay males. I am bi and prefer a woman. I also attend AA or NA on a daily basis, Im new again and have 6 days clean. Right now I have very little to offer anyone, trying to do as people say and work on me right now, really hard still dealing with feelings for my wife. I subjected her to 12 years of chaos, and feel pretty shitty about it right now, seems flowers and starbucks does not make a woman happy. The virus was the nail in the coffin, she claims it has nothing to do with it, Id like to believe that but I just dont. The opportunity for even a woman for a cup of coffee hasnt even presented itself, so worrying about the future is pointless huh.... I appreciate all the feedback, most of the support I get is for addiction and not this virus, I have a 15 year old son who I was told shouldnt know about this... do you agree?

Positive Singles is a good STD singles site.

You will find someone who will accept you as you are... get yourself healed from your heartache, put yourself out there and they will find you.

im not up for a pay dating site right now, thank you for the link though, needless to say my sickness has cost me alot of money, and jobs, I am trying to get social security vut having a hard time getting the documentation that I need from my doctor, shit i cant even get in tio see her for months, and its been a year since my last lab, Im fucked financially, wife took most everything except for a 1000$ electric bill.

no it's free... but it sounds like you really shouldn't be looking for anybody right now anyway... they say 1 year sober before you should be in a relationship.

yeah i know 1 year, Im not really looking to get in another relationship, i still would like my wife back, sometimes, but she has put terms that i need one year before she will even be my friend. I just want somebody to watch movies with, dinners, cuddling, and what i miss the most is sleeping next to her.
she has proven to me that she is not going to be there for me when i get sick, at the end she offered to drop me off at the emergency room, I love her but I deserve more. right
I was willing to stay with her, till death do us part, I guess our vowes were just some shit you say when you get married. and she claims to live a life with god, church, prayers, all that shit means nothing when you dont live it, if you ask me.
thanks Jes for responding

well... sorry to say, but I did that with my husband, he was an active addict and at the end I wouldn't even take him to the ER... all I would do for him anymore was call 911... other than that I just can't deal with his distruction anymore and can't even speak to him. he goes on and on about wanting to still be my friend but I would NEVER let a friend treat me liek he has or bring the insanity that he brought into my life.

the thing is, there was alot of love there from me, I treated her very well. It just wasnt enough. she said i was toxic. Alanon gave her the strength to leave me. I keep thinking, what a great strong woman she had to be to leave her husband with HIV. great woman huh. I would beat the ambulance to the emergency room regardless of any circumstances. For her and any of my friends